Make the people you meet feel important, and do it sincerely. Please don't make them feel important with false flattery. Make them feel important because you take the time to hear what they have to say. Make them feel important, and you're going to gain friends. Make friends, and you're going to be successful.
DON'T FORGET NONVERBAL CUES AL CUES
Remember that nonverbal cues — the little behavioral signals we give to others — are often an essential part of building friendships. Maintain eye contact with the person you meet — not a searing glare that makes them feel uncomfortable, but enough to let them feel that they have your undivided attention. Don't look around distractedly. Watch your posture. You're probably sending the wrong message if you're sitting far away from them, tensed up with your arms and legs crossed. Try opening up a bit physically. Lean in toward them slightly to make it clear that what they say is essential for you to hear. Many people succeed by mirroring — watching the other person and trying to adopt the same posture, expressions, and gestures. This is a good idea, but don't make it so obvious that the other person thinks you're making fun of them. When you speak — again, let them do most of the talking — keep your voice at a leisurely pace that's not too fast. Let people know you have time for what they want to say.
Smile. It's hard to dislike someone who likes us. So, show outward signs that you like the other person.
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