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What defines a “good” real estate agent? That often depends on your particular circumstances. For someone selling a home during a divorce, it means finding someone with experience dealing with divorcing couples and who is an expert negotiator — not only between seller and buyer, but between seller and seller, who are not always on the same page or even on speaking terms with each other. Some Realtors® prefer not to take on listings with divorcing couples because the process is often more complex and labor intensive than a standard real estate transaction. Not every real estate agent is equipped to handle the complexity of property issues that come with the division. Most of all, you have to like your agent. You might be spending a lot of time with him or her over the next fewmonths. This has to be a person who is calm, cool, and collected, is sensitive to the circumstances, and can move your home no matter the current market. He or she must relate well with both spouses and cannot show any bias or judgment. You want someone who you feel listens to your priorities, is patient with the situation, and can be trusted to deal fairly and communicate fully with both parties. The best Realtor® is one who will work effectively with both parties despite conflicts of interest and strong emotions coming from both sides. An experienced Realtor® won’t run at the first sign of an emotional outburst, shy away from awkward meetings between soon-to-be exes, or hold exclusive meetings with one party over the other, and will instead provide a neutral ground for interactions. Be sure your Realtor® keeps the details of your divorce out of sales conversations, since some buyers equate divorce with “desperate to sell” and will attempt to leverage that information in negotiations to get a lower price. You don’t have to seek out a certified Real Estate Divorce Specialist, but when you look for a Realtor®, don’t be shy about asking questions about their experience working with divorcing couples. You must be able to wholeheartedly trust your Realtor®. Listen to how they talk about previous clients. This is usually an accurate indicator of how you will be treated. Look for discretion and empathy. Most Realtors® work with buyers and sellers who don’t know each other, not with divorcing couples who may or may not be adversarial with one another.