them. Talk to them. If they say something you agree with or reflect on your ideas, it's easy to be genuinely interested in what they have to discuss. Even if they say something you disagree with or that sounds strange, learn to appreciate how and why they developed those ideas. It's been said that we know the most from the people who are the least like us. Learning about the differences in people can be interesting. Make the people you meet feel important, and do it sincerely. Please don't make them feel important with false flattery. Make them feel important because you take the time to hear what they say. Make them feel important, and you're going to gain friends. Make friends, and you're going to be successful.
DON'T FORGET NONVERBAL CUES AL CUES
Remember that nonverbal cues — the little behavioral signals we give to others — are often an essential part of building friendship. Maintain eye contact with the person you meet — not a searing glare that makes them feel uncomfortable, but enough to let them think they have your undivided attention. Don't look around distractedly. Watch your posture. You're probably sending the wrong message if you're sitting far away from them, tensed up with your arms and legs crossed. Try opening up physically. Lean in toward them slightly to clarify that what they say is essential for you to hear. Many succeed by mirroring — watching the other person and trying to adopt the same posture, expressions, and gestures. This is a good idea, but don't make it so evident that the other person thinks you're making fun of them.
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