Tips For Moving On And Not Making ving On And Not Making The Same Mistakes This final section has absolutely nothing to do with selling your home. Rather, it is a conglomeration of knowledge I have acquired over the years from working in a therapeutic capacity with couples and families, and from my extensive experience with family attorneys. While I'm in no way an expert on relationships, I feel these concepts are relevant enough to share, with the hope that it might help you be more successful moving forward. Einstein said that insanity is doing the same thing again and again, and expecting different results. As humans we tend to prove him right time and time again by inherently gravitating back to what we know. This is our mind's way of helping us maintain homeostasis, even if that homeostasis happens to be dysfunctional. Have you ever heard of the abused woman that continues to find her way back to abusive relationships? It happens all the time, and she ends up getting beaten or emotionally abused by her next partner. One way to avoid this is to really examine the characteristics about whom you are choosing as a romantic partner. If on paper they appear to be very similar to your ex, this is likely not a coincidence. Remember, in the beginning of a relationship, others will show you the "highlight reel" version of themself, rather than who they actually are. Consider dating someone who is the complete opposite of who you would normally be attracted to, you might surprise yourself! Couples tend to fight about the same things: money, bad habits, space, sex, and sleeping preferences, so why not address these common points of contention proactively? • Money - More couples fight about money than anything else, so why not consider having separate bank accounts,
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