a variable. Do you think you will be more inclined to listen and be compassionate, or less likely? Sleep is both essential to our health, but it also serves as a time where we can decompress and "reboot", similar to a computer restarting and updating. There is truth to the saying, "you'll feel better in the morning", because you will, after your mind is rested and has had an opportunity to "reboot". You'll also be way more willing to compromise and revisit a difficult situation. Bottom line, if you have different sleeping habits, don't sleep together ! It's a slow and insidious recipe for disaster. As humans we also tend to get comfortable and eventually take each other for granted. On the same token, once we become accustomed to someone, we may begin to become more critical of things than we should, often ignoring our own faults. A lifelong friend, Rocky, once gave me two excellent pieces of advice: 1. Never forget how to date your partner or spouse : Make an effort to clean yourself up, get dressed in nice clothes, and go out on a date once a week, or once every two weeks, but do go. This not only demonstrates to your partner that you still actively strive to care for your appearance, it shows them respect in that you do not take them for granted, and want to make an effort to be out in a social setting with them. There is no quicker way to forget how you fell in love with someone than to spend every night in front of a TV in sweatpants or house clothes with messy hair and no makeup. There is a time for this for sure, but don't ever forget how to "date your partner"! 2. If you are upset with your partner or spouse about something, ask yourself if it will bother you in one year's time : An excellent temperature gauge for a healthy relationship is whether or not you can remember what you fought about. As humans we fight
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