CHAPTER 1 Moving On
Divorce is not easy, nor is it a laughing matter. I didn’t write this book to give you false hope that the process will be smooth, nor to make it sound like I have some type of magical solution for you, because I don't. I’m just promising to give it to you straight and let you know what to expect. Even the most amicable separations are plagued with disappointment, lack of communication, and failed expectations. In a best-case scenario, two people who are dissolving their union will work together to resolve their differences productively and part ways, hopefully without drawing blood. The stark reality of divorce, separation, or any other failed relationship is that there is never smoke without fire. So, with that in mind, be cognizant of the fact that you, too, played a role in creating the situation you've found yourself in. And while in the interim it may be comforting to focus on all of your partner's shortcomings, the sooner you learn to accept your own faults, acknowledge your own hand in the matter, and subsequently accept a reasonable level of responsibility, the sooner you will find yourself absolved and on the path to greater things. As Confucius once said, “no matter where you go, there you are”. With a good plan and a commitment to sticking to it, we can work together to ensure that your compass now points in the right direction. During the process your and your spouse's emotions will fall prey to a myriad of changes as the marriage, family, and shares assets are legally separated. Things usually get worse before they get better, and if you try to view things through this lens, you will find yourself less disappointed. Adding to the stress is the sale of the family home, which is typically the largest asset of the marriage. This is going to be a 2
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