the house and move on. That way, both spouses get some money to make a clean break and start fresh. Once you’ve decided to sell, there is a long “to-do” list — a list that is difficult under the best of circumstances and only made more difficult with the added emotion of divorce. As humans, we have a way of justifying emotional decisions, and this is your worst enemy at a time like this. You may find yourself thinking back to past holidays, sitting around the table with the family on Thanksgiving, with laughter and football on in background. We tend to gravitate towards focusing on the positive memories and omitting the negative-- this is part of how we are wired as humans and our brain's constant efforts to maintain equilibrium and avoid drifting into negative territory. Sure, that Thanksgiving was a dream during the day, but think back to later on that evening when you were cleaning up and things escalated into a big argument, like always. Learn from history and give yourself a fair chance by looking back on your memories from the outside in, and then revisit your assessment of how the memory really transpired.
LIABILITY
The liability of keeping a home may be the best reason to sell. There are various ways to keep a house with one spouse remaining and the other departing, but they all carry risks and challenges. An equity buyout occurs when one spouse keeps the asset, and, in exchange, compensates the other for his or her share of the equity. This person has been disappointing you to a high enough extent that you both found divorce was your only option. Do you really want to be tied to this same person, knowing they can now manipulate you financially as well? It rarely ends well.
THE BUYOUT
If one spouse is in a financial position to remain in the home, it may be easier to buy out the other’s share of the property, which
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