you believe you're not the only couple with problems?), and that causes long wait times for a divorce trial. While you’re waiting for the trial date, the mortgage still has to be paid, as well as utilities, insurance, and property taxes. I liken divorce to a huge tangled ball of Christmas lights--it seems like an insurmountable task at first. But the sooner you stop allowing yourself to keep feeling hopeless and focus on a solution, the sooner you will begin to dig your way out. You'll untangle a small knot, then a bigger one, the rope of lights will get longer and longer until finally, you've done it! Now all that's left is the easy part: staple the lights to the frozen roof without falling off the ladder, and remember, when one goes out, they all go out... It's very rare that a divorce comes without multiple hiccups, so it's essential to stay as positive as possible. To reiterate, you are going to need to rebuild yourself emotionally, but will also have to ensure you are in the right place mentally to continue at your job, and support your kid(s) through the challenging complex internal states they will undoubtedly be experiencing. I like to use the example of the airline safety policy: " In the event there is a loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks will be deployed from the compartment above your seat. If you are traveling with a minor, be sure to secure your own mask before doing so for your child ". The reason they instruct you to do this is that if you are rendered incapacitated, how can you possibly care for your child? While right now, death by asphyxiation may seem like a more viable option than dealing with your ex, be sure to make time to focus on yourself first, and you will be in a far better mental state to be the adult your child needs at this difficult juncture. The rest of this book will expand upon the benefits of marital agreements that help sell the home, the importance of having realistic expectations regarding the value of your home, and how
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